The Psychology Today articel is not about social dominance but brutal dominance (“force or threat of force”). They miss the point about jerks. Game is not about beeing physicaly dominant.
4dragnet September 3, 2010 at 1:19 pm
@ Esca
“So it’s nice to hear confirmation from a women that sometimes the best game is breaking down your game to show the real you. Even if it is best friend. Just don’t be a best friend all the time. Be a professor, but shut the fuck up int he club
- and dance. Proust has nothing to do in the same air as Rihanna.”
Well said. The only thing I would add is that guys should reveal themselves slowly. You don’t want to show your professor side and then immediately after bust out your dance moves—it’s try-hard. Everything in it’s time.
“I’m actually getting wary of a lot of game sites because they promote following one or two similar mindsets like the bad boy-charmer, or warrior-chief. I don’t have a vagina so I don’t know, but to me that is boring. Like though he may be two mindsets, they are so similar that I feel guys like that look more like one note characters.”
But I think it’s important not to caricature the wider Game community here. The formula has always been that alpha (attraction) + beta (comfort) = sex. I don’t know of any Game forum, including Roissy, that says the beta traits have no place. It’s just that they emphasize the alpha part because that’s what most guys are lacking in this post-feminism SMP.
Sure their rhetoric is way (waaaaay) over the top sometimes, but I don’t think Roosh or Roissy would say that beta traits are useless—just that most guys need to be a lot less beta to achieve the right balance of alpha/beta. And that seems right to me.
And I just clicked over on your blog for the first time—seems like my posts on Obsidian’s Dr. Laura thread have really been making the rounds!
5Hope September 3, 2010 at 1:21 pm
While archetypes are interesting, the most awesome man I’ve ever met is a conglomerate of many different traits. He is the knight and the jester, the warrior and the professor, the loner and the charmer. Okay I might be really biased. I once wrote him a tribute: